The African culture has always made the female sexual experience a topic that’s not allowed to be discussed freely even amongst the couple. It’s in that category of “Things we shall not speak of”.
Although, in recent times things are beginning to change, men are beginning to listen to their women about bedroom matters. If men take cues from women about sex, the bedroom will be happier and more satisfying place to be. Women have been taught to massage and flatter the male ego through time, to make him seem infallible which doesn’t help the man become a better lover.
There is no room for improvement if a lady cannot tell her man what he is doing wrong in the bed. One fear is that it might make the man feel uncomfortable or inadequate but receiving honest feedback is good for both parties.
The Africa culture has made it very awkward for a woman to tell her man, “I like that, keep doing it” or “No, don’t do that, please stop”. The social construct will label such a woman as a hoe or a prostitute simply because she is offering feedback on the sex.
So, in the spirit of full disclosure, these are things that they won’t tell us. You’ll need to read this to help you get better.
1. Haa! You learnt that from a porn video
Yup! She knows
Well, they apparently know. I get it guys, we feel the need to feel like a porn star. So, we pick these style and stand out of the videos. It looked cool in those videos but apparently, it might have looked good on film because it was done that way purposely but not so cool in real-life. Porn movies are directed in a way that the sexual organs are prominent, and it’s just those genitals that interact together mostly.
Sex between couple is more intimate than pornography, so it’s about the guy touching and caressing the lady all over not just boobs and the ass. Guys they know, when you see her looking at you strangely, it might be time to throw that stuff from porn out of the window and get to what she likes.